Transforming Unfulfilled Folx into UnabasheD BADASSES
Be as expressed, confident, and free as you dream of - in ALL areas of your life.
I believe in you, and I offer my hand and depth of experience as your guide into this awakening.
You are looking for someone who understands where you are on your path and to support you to get where you want to go…
- You’ve done a lot of self-development work on yourself.
- You’ve read all the books and listened to all the podcasts.
- You’ve completed lots of workshops and group programs.
You have great aspirations but you’re just not getting there...
For months, maybe even years and years, you have been seeking the key to unlock your potential, to know who you truly are, and to feel comfortable and safe to be your authentic self.
You know it’s time to stop trying to figure it out yourself and to get support from an expert. You have been looking for someone who has been down the road you’re on and who knows how to travel well.
You see what you’ve been looking for in me.
Hi, I’m Monica Jayne
The original Trailblazer of Unabashed Badassery™
I’ve overcome and recovered from so much…
(Trigger Warning – there is some heavy stuff on this list.)
- Being an adult child of an alcoholic and drug addict
- Early parentification
- Childhood sexual abuse
- Committing a crime at age 8 that had me threatened to be taken from my parents as a Ward of the State
- High school bullying to the point of death threats
- Moving high schools, towns, states
- Gaining and losing lots of weight
- Type-A, hyper-toxic-masculinity, overachiever
- Nervous breakdown
- Pursuing the American Dream because I “should”, not because I want to
- 6-Figure Executive in Operations Management in Aerospace and Defense
- Gaslighting
- From rags to riches back to rags back to riches
- Foreclosure
- Infidelity
- Uplanned pregnancy and abortion
- Becoming a Sex Coach and Educator and all the societal shaming and condemnation that comes with that
- Immediate family falling apart completely, sibling disowning me - becoming an orphan at 28 years old overnight
- Profoundly repressed sexuality and libido
- Debilitating shame about my sexuality
- Never learned to masturbate naturally
- Anorgasmia - the inability to orgasm
- Rape and attempted rape
- Conforming to all the shoulds and shouldn’ts prescribed by society, culture, religion, and family and completely losing my sense of self
- Being the “good girl”
- Being the “good student”
- Questioning my gender
- Questioning my identity
- Dream of having a yoga business crumbling
- Betrayal of a boss and of a company
- Living and travelling internationally across 6 continents and over 45 countries
- Suicidal ideations
- Serial monogamy with relationship-after-relationship ending miserably
- Death of my mother, my best friend, after being her primary care-giver and patient advocate as she battled cancer
- Father returning to drugs and alcohol after 24 years sober and getting DUIs with blood alcohol levels that should kill a person
- Grieving all of this loss
I get it. I see you. I’ve been there or somewhere very near there. I have overcome all of the above and more.
I Know what it’s like to navigate life with a difficult history.
For more than 20 years I’ve been on a personal growth path. I’ve studied with the best of the best. Authenticity and Vulnerability directly with Brené Brown, Partnership and Polarity with Alison Armstrong, Sex and Sexuality with Jaiya, Mindset with Joe Dispenza, and Gender and Sexual Orientation with Terra Anderson.
I am an embodiment and movement practitioner and facilitator. I’ve served and supported 1000s of humans across 6 continents and over 45 countries with all 7 of these modalities and so much more!
I have certifications in:
The Erotic Blueprints™
Like the Love Languages™ for sexual preference and arousal typing, this framwork makes you a sexual and erotic savant of fulfillment and satisfaction.
Accelerated Evolution™
An integrated set of verbally-guided transformative experiences that allow anybody to dissolve inner conflict, emotional knots and stored trauma, allowing the natural emergence of peace of mind, flow and effortless peak existence.
Queer Competency™
Knowledge and understanding of LGBTQ+ diversity, inclusivity in language and action for the queer and trans community.
Authentic Relating Facilitation
A tested set of communication activities and techniques that are proven to increase social and emotional intelligence, communication skills, vulnerability, authenticity, and connection.
Forthcoming in Sexological Bodywork
Awakens and improves the mind/body connection deepening sexuality and eroticism.
Yoga asana, theory, and philosophy
Over 5000 hours teaching, including for an accredited collegiate institution, and studying with the greats like Judith Hansen Lasater, Gary Kraftsow, Erich Schiffman, and Sarah Powers.
Today I devote my service to empowering and showing others how to:
- Create safe and harmonious relationships, feel their feelings, identify needs and get them met, connect deeply, authentically, and vulnerably, as well as how to have amazing sex and intimacy, authentic self-expression, and live life fully!
I am a dynamic powerhouse of practicality and sparkly fun all bundled into an easy-to-understand-and-relate-to-human, who desires to support you to be true to yourself, erotically awakened, authentically happy, and fulfilled in your life.
Private Coaching Success Stories
Personal Strength and Reconciling Relationships
Melissa Petterson | Jewelry Maker | California, USA
This is a segment of an interview with my client Melissa. She shares here why she was able to reconcile her relationship, learn to set boundaries, and also to “grow up” in her work with me. It’s a fun segment! Have a look…
Empowered to set and keep boundaries I have been able to embody the communication and self-awareness skills I have learned that empower me to recognize my wants and needs and to speak up for myself effectively.
I now confidently establish clear boundaries and expectations with others, nurture a deeper, more loving and respectful relationship with both my partner and myself, and am truly accountable for my thoughts, feelings and actions.
I finally understand how to be as good a friend to myself as I am to others.
I learned to love myself I so thoroughly enjoyed working with Monica Jayne. I felt compelled to work with her on an issue that I was having - I wasn’t feeling worthy. I felt very drawn to working with Monica Jayne after hearing her life story because it made me feel very comfortable to work with her. It was such a joy to work with Monica Jayne. She’s easy to talk to and listens very thoroughly. I totally recommend people to work with her. I learned how to Love myself first, before Love could truly come to me.
There is nothing to be ashamed of I have a new comfort level to speak in a sexual nature with my partner. Along with a renewed sense of confidence in my ability to please them. I truly believe now that there is nothing wrong with me. What I want, how I feel, and what I choose to do is right for me. It is nothing for me to be ashamed of.
Deeper trust and connection with spouse I have learned so much in my sessions with Monica Jayne and felt safe and fully supported while experiencing vulnerability and empathy on this path of self exploration and eroticism.
The result of this is continued growth of trust, connection and authenticity in my relationship with my spouse.
No more shame, guilt, or shutting down The biggest impact to date is no longer feeling guilt/shame about what turns me on.
This has helped in the communication with my wife around not only sex but day-to-day life.
The self realization I have had is now knowing I would shut down and not relay communication, which is why I was not getting my needs met.
Working Privately with Monica Jayne
My desire is to uplift millions of folx in this lifetime, influencing them toward empowerment, self-love, and acceptance. I want everyone to be liberated from the repression, shame, “shoulds”, and “shouldn’ts” received throughout life and to be resilient as these continue to show up throughout your life – because they will!
Private coaching with me is not for the faint of heart. I require a particular caliber of humxn as a private client:
Private Coaching with Monica Jayne is FOR you if:
- You are ready to take personal responsibility for your part
- You’ve done quite a bit of self-development work already; this won’t be your first rodeo
- You are committed to your path and know that ultimately only YOU can walk yourself down it
- You are open to support, guidance, and suggestions
- You’re willing to learn how to stand your ground and have your own back
- You may or may not know exactly what you want but you definitely know what you do not want and what you want to change
- You are excited to receive deep contact, focus, and guidance from me
- You are prepared to start now!
Private Coaching with Monica Jayne is NOT for you if:
- You like to blame all your problems and challenges on something outside yourself
- You complain a lot
- You talk a lot but don’t take action or make changes or strides toward what you desire
- Private coaching is intimidating; you’d rather be in group coaching - Join They Didn’t Teach Me That™ PLAYHOUSE instead.
- You do not take responsibility to schedule and complete homework suggestions from practitioners like counselors, chiropractors, physical therapists
- You expect someone else to “fix” you
No matter what you are coming to me with, I’m here to serve you. First, you apply. If I see a fit, we have an Unabashed Possibilities Session to make sure we both feel we are a match. If we aren’t, I refer you out to my comprehensive network of professionals, products, and resources. If we are a great fit, I create private coaching customized to where you are and where you want to go and we get started!
Owning Her Pleasure and Eroticism
Julianne Vacaro | Somatic Sexologist | Colorado, USA
Before working with me, Julianne was struggling with expressing her eroticism. I met her where she was and guided her on how to take more self-responsibility rather than feel paralyzed and not knowing how to move forward. Now she has made shifts and impacted her sexuality to feel free to express herself and her most innocent desires with confidence and clarity.
Inspired to Be a Badass
John Mermin | Regional Planner | Oregon, USA
John was feeling stuck and unable to ask for his needs to be met before we started working together. During his mentorship with me, he learned how his body is wired to receive pleasure and how to meet and amplify his erotic potential. He became empowered in his communication to speak his needs clearly and implemented various embodiment practices to awaken his body. Now he is confident and self-assured and feeling orgasmic pleasure all day! John is basking in his life force energy and he now speaks his truth like the badass that he is!
Deeper Self-Love and Having My Own Back
Jake Brannemeng | Solar Foreman | Nevada, USA
This is a segment from a long interview with Jake and his wife Shanni. Jake shares what he gained in our time together: more confidence, having my own back, better communication, boundaries, being grounded. He now has a deeper, more open connection with his wife and speaks truth confidently. It was beautiful to work with them as a couple as well as with each of them as individuals – this is my favorite way to work with couples.
Profoundly Awakening
Lacey Dupre | Money Mindset Coach | Texas, USA
It didn’t take long for Lacey to realize the well of held emotions she was holding once I was there holding immaculate space for all of stuff to come to the surface. She awakened profoundly during our experience together and continues to feel the effects of it “everyday” to this day.
Becoming Self-Validating
Tyler B. | Construction | Nevada, USA
This is a video update between sessions from Tyler. He was dealing with getting his worth solely from the outside world – the beast most of us deal with, the need for external validation. After our session for the first time in a long time Tyler felt his own pride in himself returning and this increased his happiness and positively affected his connection and relationships with his children and partner. For more between-session-update video from Tyler and another client, Richone, scroll near the bottom of the page.
Private Coaching Success Stories
I found my super power The most magical experience I had working with Monica Jayne was finding my super power to shut down a depressive episode by tapping into my Kinky side. I never felt so much control over my emotions when in a state like that before. Smacking my thighs while in a seated position back into reality was just what I needed to pull me out. Just like magic ✨
I’m not broken! Before we started working together I thought I was experiencing a trauma response when my husband would try to be intimate with me. He would go from 0 to 100 in seconds and my body shut down. Turns out it wasn’t a trauma response at all, I’m just an Energetic! I thought being raped had forever ruined my sex life and it “broke” my body in some way. I am so happy to know that that jerk did not take this from me. I am totally normal and can have a fun and exciting sex life. My body just needs time to get to 100!
Chelsea A.Marriage and Family Therapist | Colorado, USA
Less inhibition, more flow I’m more self-assured and clear on my needs to live a fulfilled life. I have established new self-care routines that are helping to unleash my true essence. I find myself sharing with others in a less inhibited manner and feel my life force flowing.
Deep healing Thank you Monica Jayne for this framework to explore my sexuality. With this framework, I have been able to pursue a deep healing and overcome shame that kept me from enjoying my sexuality.
I can now speak freely about sex I am now comfortable talking about and exploring sex/intimacy. Before working with Monica Jayne it was as though there was a cloud of shame interfering with everything having to do with sex… this cloud has dissipated!
Chelsea A.Mental Health Therapist | Colorado, USA
Real Client Results
SESSION UPDATES FROM CLIENTS
I was in Denial
Richone C. | Holistic Wellness | Nevada, USA
This is a video update between sessions from Richone. In our session she felt me all her forward and hold space for her to take responsibility for hiding behind denial. Overcoming this she feels more raw and real with others and is creating greater connections with others through honesty and openness.
Tyler B. | Construction | Nevada, USA
Tyler B. | Construction | Nevada, USA
This is a video update between sessions from Tyler. He was dealing with anger issues taking over his experiences and relationships. The root was a connection to his parents. We processed that and anger no longer controlled his life experiences.
Unsure to Sure
Tyler B. | Construction | Nevada, USA
This is a video update between sessions from Tyler. In our session Tyler learned that fear had been taking over his ability to trust others and that he didn’t have to allow it to do that anymore.
No Longer Driven by Fear
Richone C. | Holistic Wellness | Nevada, USA
This is a video update between sessions from Richone. Before she decided to work with me she felt a haunting darkness permeated her life experience since childhood. The process I facilitated for her allowed her to stop living from fear and instead, be driven by her joys and her goals. She experiences great freedom having this darkness lifted from her life experience and stepping into the light.
Healed My Relationships with Men
Shannon Brannemeng | RN | Nevada, USA
This is a segment from a long interview with Shanni and her husband Jake. Shanni shares what she gained in our time together: Say no when needed. Identifying boundaries. Healed her relationship to men and her anger with them. Huge shift to see the magnificence of men and a softness from her toward them. Not wasting energy anymore. It was beautiful to work with them as a couple as well as with each of them as individuals – this is my favorite way to work with couples.
Unabashed Badassery Can Be Yours
It’s about time you stopped striving by yourself and received the support you deserve. I spent 15 years spinning my wheels, trying to do it all myself. We aren’t built for that. I’m here for you. You’re ready to be you, have what you want, create the life you desire. Let’s do this!